LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS: Jamaican women love in stages.

Opinion piece

Author: S. Gordon-Jeffery

 Just like there are different stages to a romantic relationship. Jamaican women have mastered the art of loving in stages. We have no problem with falling deeply in love, but we're cautious. We take a step/stage at a time, we watch and we learn. Below I've listed the different stages of a Jamaican woman's love ... well, as I see them.

1. We spirit tek yuh

There is something about you we like. Maybe it's your intelligence, your charm or your swag. It could be that a kind gesture on your part made us notice. One thing is for sure, we see what we like and we're curious to know more. We'll not make you feel that we like you at first -- don't want your head to swell up (boost your ego), lol. We will, after careful observation, give you hints we're interested. Some of us are bold enough to make the first move. Yep, we're not afraid! 

2. We check fi yuh pon a different level

When a Jamaican woman says she 'check fi yuh', she means that there are certain things she will do for you that she would never do for someone else. That may involve, ditching her friends to spend time with you or buying something to show you her love for you or it may be that she will focus more on you than another male suitor. You have her attention basically. There is a focus, time and effort she puts in for you.

3. We rate yuh/yuh ratings large

When a Jamaican woman rate yuh, that is something special. This means there is something that you did that made her go "hmm". You've got her attention and she's looking to see what other things you have up your sleeve. Maybe you took her to some place fancy or you just planned a simple but classy date. One things for sure, she's expecting the same energy to continue as the relationship progresses. She will be talking about you to her friends and may bring you around the family. She has decided that she wants a serious relationship with you. She may get a little jealous over you and expect you to be exclusive with her.

4. Yuh a di boss

As far as we're concerned you're the one. So if you cheat we will be very upset. We will be loyal and we expect the same from you. No excuses and no negotiations. We nuh share (we don't share our men). If you see a girl talking about sharing a man, she doesn't love him, she doesn't see herself with him in the near future, and she doesn't see him as the father of her kids. When we love you -- we love you and we don't believe in sharing. Trust me.

Personal experience

When I started dating my husband I liked him but I didn't love him immediately. However, there was something about him that did intrigue me, and yes I wanted to know more. Hubby will vouch for the fact that I made it difficult for him in the beginning of the relationship, not deliberately. I wasn't sure about us initially and I wanted to be sure. 

Test my theory

Now, don't think this is just my one off, personal experience. The info I give here applies to most Jamaican women. Okay, do this: Observe the Jamaican woman you're with, think about how the relationship is going so far (especially if it's a new one, just a couple of months), and tell me if what I'm saying isn't true. 

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