DATING 101: Physical Attraction versus Compatibility.

 Author: S. Gordon-Jeffery

  Most persons will admit that the first thing they notice about anyone is their appearance —how they look. Where a love relationship is concerned, we often allow our eyes to lead the way. The problem with that though is we sometimes fall for the person based on how they look and not on if this person is right for us. Are they compatible with us? Do their values and upbringing mesh with our own? Here are some tips to help you focus on what's really important. 

1. Be open minded

Most guys and even some girls will say they have a physical type they go for in the opposite sex. While we're not encouraging you to totally dispel your preferences, we are asking you to broaden them. Great people come in different packages, and if you're constantly choosing a physical type that turns out to bring you heartache, it's time you reevaluate what you like and seriously think about what is truly right for you.
 
Be open to meeting and building a rapport with someone who you may not have ordinarily found attractive. We're not saying look out for the scruffiest, least attractive person in the room. What we are saying is strike up a conversation, be friendly and take the time to know persons and don't prejudge. You can never tell...

2. Change up your dating routine

If your usual thing is to go to the club to find love, take a detour and visit places you may never have thought of. Visiting these places is not necessarily for you to deliberately meet someone. No. What you will be doing is being open to the possibility of meeting your future spouse. You should consider going to different places and events as a way to grow you; to make you better. Go camping or hiking, take up an new sport, remember be open minded, and be willing to change you.

3. Think about Values and Compatibility not the Physical

Granted, one must and should be physically attracted to the person you fall in love with, but it should not be the deciding factor. What you really need to know is: Who is this person really? Are they family oriented? Do they like to travel? Do they love animals? What are they passionate about? Is there anything you have in common? These are the things you should find out. Don't go rushing into asking these questions right away though. Take the time to just talk about lighter topics first, see how that goes, see if there is mutual interest and then gradually ask these important questions. Make sure you take serious note about how they handle the questions, not just what they say.

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